After a loved one crosses over it can feel as though you’re left with a gaping hole in your heart, you may feel lost and alone, angry and sad… while experiencing many other waves of emotions as you go through the mourning process and coming to terms with your loss. You feel as if they are gone from your life forever, but the truth is, they are always with us.
We are all spirit having a human experience, so when our human form passes over our spirit continues to live on. It’s the same with animals too.
So it makes total sense that sometimes our passed loved ones will try to get messages across to us. They may want to make contact to let you know that they’re okay, to give you help and guidance ,to comfort you in your grief, to give you a message, or for other reasons. Itmay be that they just want to check up on you from time to time over the yearsto see how you are doing.
They like to visit and acknowledge significant events such as birthdays, weddings, anniversaries, births, deaths, or even to warn us of a bad situations.
If you know what to look for, you’ll get the message they are trying to convey.
Spirit are often very eager to let you know they are part of your life and are with you when you least expect it. While many people can feel their passed loved ones watching over them, self-doubt can creep in and many tend to question whether or not what you experienced is actually a message from a passed loved one.
Spirit will provide us with many signs and will continue to try and get through in the hope that they will be recognised (some of these signs are listed below).
The signs will come in a varietyof ways, and the key is keep your eye open for synchronicities and anything out of the ordinary.
These spontaneous and direct methods of communication can occur at any time, and anywhere. You can be fully awake, in a twilight state of dreaming and waking, or in a dream state.
All you need to connect with passed loved ones is the ability to be open and pay attention.
Here is a list of the 12 most common signs our loved ones give to us…
One of the most common ways for spirit to visit and communicate with us is through dreams. While sleeping your conscious mind has quietened and you have less resistance through your own thoughts, blockages and beliefs – you’re relaxed and open. Most people are comfortable seeing a loved one in a dream and of course they don’t want to scare you!
Spirit and angels will give you messages through words, symbols, and scenes that you can use as guidance for your life. Be aware that these messages can take time to decipher. A great place to start is with a dream journal, or at the very least have a pen and paper next to your bed so that you can write things down quickly either in the middle of the night if you’re woken by your dream, or first thing in the morning when you’re dream is relatively fresh in your mind.
If you are visited by someone in a dream, you will know as these dreams are quite different from regular dreaming and you may try talk yourself out of the fact that you had a ‘spirit visitation’ dream.
In spirit visitation dreams a deceased loved one often enters the dream, or is surrounded by some sort of light. In the dream, while they may talk to you or ask you to deliver messages, they will usually offer some sort of comfort that they are okay, everything is peaceful, and that they made it to the other side comfortably. Symbols in your dream are used to help you to interpret the dream. If it’s not clear to you what the message is, you may want to investigate some dream interpretation information to clarify further.
A dream that is a true visitation will be very peaceful and you willknowwithin yourself that it is truly your loved one. You will remember these types of dreams in detail for many years to come.
If your dream is frightening or makes you feel bad, this is not a spirit visitation dream. This is your subconscious, worries and concerns coming through. Our loved ones are always loving and positive, much the same as they were when living, but more so now that they are in the spirit world as now they have no worries or concerns, have or are going through healing, and will shine with love.
If for some reason you do feel a negative spirit coming through for whatever reason, all you need to do is ask Archangel Michael to protect you and for him to only allow spirit of the light to come through with positive messages for you.
Number patterns are also very commonly shown to us by spirit and Angels. You will see the same numbers over and over until you get the message! Spirit love to give numbers that hold some significance such as birth dates, anniversaries, and other significant event dates. You may relate a number sequence to a date a particular person had passed – they are letting YOU know they are with you!
Repeating numbers such as 111,222, 333, etc. seen on clocks, phone numbers or other familiar places, could also have some significance to a passed loved one (like time of death for example). This is also a very common way to receive messages from the Angels with each number having a significant meaning of guidance for you based on timeless and accurate numerology.
Signs Through Animals
Butterflies, Birds, Dragonfly’s, Ladybugs… Spirits can use their energy to be with us through the animal world for a very short amount of time. If an animal does something unusual like land in front of you or on you, stare at you through a window or peck at the window, squawk at you as if they’re trying to speak to you – any of these could be a sign that your loved one is around you.
Signs Through Small Objects
It is very common for spirit to use objects like feathers, coins, stones, and other small objects that may have some significance to either you or the spirit.Spirit like to place things in your path to let you know they are around.
If you find different things just showing up randomly, you may like to do some research on “apports” (gifts from spirit), where objects appear from nowhere
Some spirits move objects to get your attention. Does the same photograph keep falling? Is the same thing always being ‘misplaced’ or ‘lost’ while in your possession?
Spirit LOVE to play with electricity.After all… we are ALL energy! Energy runs through ALL things! It is actually quite common for passed loved ones to learn how use these things to get your attention! This is a more advanced skill, so not all spirits are able to do this. They love to manipulate appliances like flickering lights, turning the television and radio on and off, making things beep or ring for no apparent reason and children’s toys can start to play and move around. Ever heard the doorbell ring, you go to answer to find no-one is there (and it isn’t Halloween!).
If unusual things like this happen to you, it might be that someone is trying to tell you something (besides the obvious message of getting your appliances checked too of course!)
Some signs can be a little more intense than others which can tend to scare people. If you do get scared by any of these occurrences, all you need to do is talk to them and ask them to tone it down or show you something different – choose another sign to use!
Buzzing in your Ear
Have you ever had a high pitch noise in one or both of your ears that has just come out of nowhere? And no, I don’t mean the after effects of a big night out at a rock concert either. It is, quite different to that. I will point out here that there is a medical condition that is described similar to this and perhaps something you may want to get checked too. However, we are talking on a spirit level. What does this mean?
Spirit run at a much higher frequency than we do (hence the high pitched noise in our ears). You can ask them to turn it down (or up). This sign can mean that you are “downloading” information in to your subconscious, it can be a sign telling you to listen to what they are saying. How do you know what they are saying… well… you can get it in several ways. Look up the “Clair’s” (clairaudience, clairvoyance, etc etc). So you can see, feel, hear or know what their messages are – unfortunately they don’t send out a memo typed out neatly for us to understand. Perhaps we can work on that with them in future.
Synchronicity is experiencing two or more events that are unlikely to occur together by chance, yet are experienced by occurring together in a meaningful way. Spirit can arrange ‘signs’ for you in this way. For example, maybe you’ve heard the same name pop up several times in one day? Perhaps you have been recommended to read the same book by several different people. There’s so many things that contribute to synchronicity and I’m sure you’ve already experienced it several times before. These are signs you’re on to something, pay attention. Receiving a symbolic message, sign, coincidence or synchronicity – Synchronicities can be a sign of confirmation, of thoughts – of messages a sign spirits are watching over you! There’s also a few other reasons dependant on our own levels of vibration (what’s happening for us in our lives, relationships etc.) That’s an article for another time.
We can often tell our passed loved ones are around us by smells like perfume, cigar/cigarette smoke, particular flowers, cooking, or any other familiar smell they had. There is no logical explanation as to why the smell is there, others can’t smell it (sometimes they can), but it seemingly comes from nowhere. For example if you smell cigar smoke, and no one is smoking near you, but you can associate it with, or it makes you think of, your passed grandfather use to smoke cigars – chances are it’s him letting you know he’s around! Think of the familiar smells you associate with your loved one. If it’s not logical to smell cigar smoke when no-one smokes in your house and you’re quietly sitting watching TV, it could be a sign!
Songs are a great way for spirit to trigger memories for you. Spirits love to play songs to deliver messages to you. Sometimes you will wake up with a random song in your head and you have no idea why you’re thinking of it (not so random really). Or perhaps you turn on the radio and you hear a song that instantly reminds you of a passed loved one. Aside from letting you know they’re around, pay close attention to the lyrics, there could be a message in it for you. Often, song signs are played several different times in several different places, but not always. We know they are around when their favourite song come on at the right time with the exact words we need to hear.
Sensing Their Presence
You might notice a shift when spiritis around you. It could be a change in energy, a feeling, suddenly experiencing a difference in temperature, brush of cold air when all doors and windows areclosed or actual movement. Perhaps you might feel like someone is sitting next to you.
A light brush of your hair, holding your hand, a gentle touch, a hug. It can sometimes feel as if you’ve just walked through a spider web, but there is nothing there. That old saying you may or may not have heard of (when you get a chill or a sudden shiver/shudder) – “that felt like someone just walked over my grave”.
It has been said by some that feeling their touch is most common in the days directly following a loved one’s passing. However, some spirits do continue to visit long after they’ve passed, and let you know by using the ability of touch.
Usually you’ll feel a sense of love and peacefulness for no reason.It can happen at the most unsuspecting times, and there’s no logical explanation for such sudden bliss. There’s nothing to fear, say hello and thank them for visiting!
Spirit messages can come to us by the way of ‘thoughts’. Pay attention to any thoughts that just ‘pops’ into your head. For example, you see a bird that is very uncommon in your area and you immediately remember how much your grandmother loved this particular bird? Maybe she sent you this to remind you of her and to let you know she’s thinking of you and that she is with you. You might be thinking of your next holiday and suddenly you get an inspiration to go to a certain place, perhaps it’s somewhere your loved one has been before and they’re making a suggestion for you? Your loved ones are just a thought away.
These are just some of the most common ways spirit communicates with us. If you haven’t experienced any of these signs, it may just be that you haven’t recognised them, or you could simplyaskyour loved ones to give you a sign to let you know they are okay. It may be that you don’t sense them around because they are doing fine, or perhaps they’re spending a bit of time helping others too. Ask them to come to you as you sleep, in your dreams, and to wake you up after the dream.
The more you areawareof the messages you are given, the more time they will spend with you. Be patient and persistent.
Remember, when spirit pass over they leave all of their earthly worries and ailments behind. They go in to healing and reflect back on their learnings from their human experience. They want you to remember their whole life and not just the time immediately before their passing. There are many wonderful memories before that they are focused on and treasure. They really are okay and want you to be too!
Matthew Ratcliffe reports on research from the University of York. After a significant bereavement, there can be times when the person who has died appears vividly present to us – we might see them, hear them, feel their touch, or sense their presence in a way that is hard to describe.How do you know if a loved one is passing? ›
- feeling weak and tired.
- sleeping more or being drowsy.
- feeling hot or cold.
- cold hands or feet.
- eating and drinking less.
- bladder or bowel problems.
- breathlessness (dyspnoea)
Create a memory ritual
It might be something small like visiting their favourite spot in the garden each day, placing flowers on a grave or looking through a well-loved photo album with their favourite drink in hand. It might be something much bigger, like an annual trip to their favourite place, or throwing a party.
One of the most common and well-known near-death experiences for those who die and come back is seeing a bright, white light. This white light isn't something to be afraid of. In fact, most report it coming with a sense of peace or even happiness.Do loved ones know when you visit their grave? ›
Spiritual teachers and biblical references suggest that our beloved departed ones may know when we visit their grave, and people may feel a sense of being watched or comforted when they visit a loved one's grave.How do you send a message to someone who has passed away? ›
Write them a letter.
Clearing your head this way can help you see hidden messages you may not have been able to see before. Write about your day or what you wish you could have told them before you passed. Burn your letter and watch as the embers and smoke carry your message through the air.
Breathlessness and shortness of breath are also common symptoms at the end of life. Additionally, as dying patients get closer to their last day, they may experience what's known as the death rattle. Over time, mucus and fluids get trapped in your airways and lungs, causing a rattling sound when you breathe.What is the first organ to shut down when dying? ›
The digestive system is the first to be affected. When the dying process begins there is a loss of appetite and thirst. The brain will also lose function and shut down. This is due to a lack of oxygen attributed to labored breathing and the eventual cessation of breathing.What are end of life hallucinations? ›
Hallucinations – They may hear voices that you cannot hear, see things that you cannot see, or feel things that you are unable to touch or feel. These hallucinations may be frightening or comforting to the dying person depending on their content.How do you communicate with your loved ones in heaven? ›
Say a prayer that asks for protection from God or the highest power in the universe. State that you welcome your angels and spirit loved ones who would like to communicate with you. Ask your spirit loved ones direct questions. Ask your spirit loved ones for a heavenly tour of their realm.
When speaking with someone who is dying, it's important to follow their lead and let them be in control of the conversation. They may wish to speak about big events in their life or reminiscence about memories. During this time, keep their needs and feelings at the forefront of your thoughts.How do you let go of someone you loved who died? ›
- Take Responsibility for Your Own Life: It's time to realize you are no longer responsible for your loved one. ...
- Change Your Way of Thinking: It's time to change any negative self-talk to words of affirmation. ...
- Do Something New: You are a new person so it's only fitting you do something new.
After death, the body starts to undergo changes as its temperature drops. The skin color and texture look and feel different, and the muscles relax, stiffen, and then relax again. This article will explain the physical timeline of dying, from the moment a person dies through the after-death (post-mortem) stages.How long can a person hear after dying? ›
“Our data shows that a dying brain can respond to sound, even in an unconscious state, up to the last hours of life.”When loved ones appear in dreams? ›
Visitation dreams may provide a sense of comfort and closeness, so people may be more likely to have them when they experience significant periods of loneliness. This might be your brain subconsciously trying to meet that innate need for connection.What does it mean when you feel a presence around you? ›
Feeling of Presence, or FoP, is the disconcerting notion that someone else is hovering nearby, walking alongside you or even touching you. It's the stuff of ghost stories, but also a real symptom of several neurologic conditions, including schizophrenia and Alzheimer's disease.What does it mean when you dream of someone who has passed on? ›
MD. Dreaming of dead relatives often reflects your grief after losing a loved one. The dreams can feel so real that you temporarily forget the other person is gone. While dreaming of the deceased is often positive and comforting, it can also be unsettling.What does it mean when a bird visits you after someone dies? ›
Many people believe seeing a cardinal is a “sign” that those who have passed are with us in spirit. These people believe that the redbird is carrying a message from a deceased mother, father, sister, brother or friend. The bird is seen as a go-between from the great beyond to those still here on Earth.What does it mean when you dream about death of a family member who is alive? ›
Recurring dreams about death can be the result of ongoing stress and unresolved issues. Try to identify the cause of stress in your waking life. Confronting the issue may help stop the dreams.